Every Girl Has Her Mr. Big

AND NO, not that type of Mr. Big for those of you with your mind in the gutter. I am, of course, referring to one of the greatest shows EVER...Sex in the City. Carrie had her Mr. Big and in one grand gesture of love in the greatest city in the world, Paris, they end up together. And then in the movie, he, of course, buys her the greatest closet in the world. Well, let's face it, life is not a TV show and usually you don't live happily ever after with your Mr. Big.

I am no exception to the rule, I have my Mr. Big and our history started all the way back in 2000. I was recently divorced (yep, believe or not, I had the starter marriage) and met Mr. Morgan (as we will call him). Mr. Morgan and I worked together. He ended up meeting and marrying his FIRST wife in the first 6 months that we worked together. Prior to his FIRST wedding, he plead his undying love for me and then preceeded to get married. Fast forward one year, lost my job and moved on. He, in the meantime, had a child and got a divorce.

Five years later, he contacts me and wants me to come to work for the company where he worked. K, really didn't think I should, but they made me a salary offer I couldn't refuse (that is when the obsession with Manolo's started BTW). And we start right back up "dating", I KNOW it was not the smartest thing in the world to "date" someone with whom you work. However it never really got started...for some reason, every time we made plans, he cancelled because his daughter needed this or his sister had a crisis or his friend had a hang nail, etc, etc. And I allowed this to go on for....wait for it....at least 18 months. I kept telling myself he really loved me, it just wasn't the right time. I did date other people in the meantime (and then of course, he read my emails and made snide comments about it).

And then the BEST story of ALL! Everyone at the company had to go a company BBQ. I was standing there chatting with others and I heard someone say...is that Mr. Morgan's fiance? COMO SAY WHAT...the man that just made out with me in his office in the past month, is engaged? I was so angry, I honestly couldn't believe it. How could someone that supposedly loved me be engaged to someone else? I laid in my bed that night and my heart was racing, I have never been so FRICKING MAD in my whole life.

Perhaps, I should have re-read He's Just Not That Into You, right? I kept asking myself (as did all of my friends and family), why do you continue to let this man do this to you? You are an attractive, intelligent woman...you deserve better. Why do you continue to shed tears over this man, who clearly doesn't give a shit about you? Keep saying this to yourself, if he doesn't keep plans with you, he doesn't want to be with you. AND OF COURSE, if he marries someone else, he does not love you!

Ladies, take it from me, don't get caught up in the Sex in the City fairytale. You are wonderful, intelligent women, wait for the guy that knows you are absolutely fabulous and wants to be with you! Take this advice from the great song...Settlin by Sugarland, I ain't settling for just getting by, I've had enough so-so for the rest of my life. Tired of shooting too low so raise the bar high, I ain't settlin for anything less than everything! Great advice.

Cheers and CIAO until next time!